Boy meets girl, man meets woman or vis-à-vis, sparks are made, the thought of touch comes to mind, and erotic imaginations begin to work like engines at work.  The things that drew you to the person play on your mind even when you are apart.  You think about how to make that MOVE, how to touch that person and hold him/her close to you for the first time.  You wonder what would it be like, how will it feel and what will be the after effects and just “How Important Is That First Kiss?”

SHE SAYS: To answer this question is like getting back into years of adolescent. For me, those were years of total innocence where fear and anxiety became the order of the day.  At that time, people are much too young to understand what they are into.  Most often, they do things base on ignorance or peer pressure.  So whether the first kiss with pressure or for
pleasure, we are yet to probe deeper to understand.  Generally speaking, first kisses are most often memorable and peculiar.  But what is most important is with whom the first kiss is shared.  Asking the question how important was that first kiss is asking how important you were to him/her during that year of your first kiss.  If your firs kiss was based on true and honest love, then its value should always be upheld.  And if it was based on mere infatuation, I supposed it was not worth its taste.

HE SAYS:  Well said, be it a child or an adult, it's important, it's a bridge that has to be crossed.  And when crossed sure-footedly, it's something you will never forget.  The first kiss counts and measures all else.

SHE SAYS:  Let me be blunt and honest if I must reveal the significance of that first kiss.  My first kiss was a total shock, disbelief and unexpected.  It took my breath away.  He was handsome, honest in what he did and sincere about our first kiss.
s a matter of fact, he respected my judgment and allowed me to make a clear decision on what we did.  He waited patiently and talked sweetly until I finally give in to my first kiss.  The kiss was good, sweet and convincing and am still impressed.

HE SAYS:  Well, I would like to tell you about my first kiss, but a gentleman never kiss-and-tell.  Whatever the case, the first kiss was good and several other first kisses after that.  Although there have been some awkward ones, too.

SHE SAYS:  Nevertheless, first kisses are meant to leave lasting impact on both sexes.  Depending on whether it is done meaningfully to enhance that drive.  Conversely, some first kisses are not really important and yield no result.  Yet first kisses will forever be first kisses no matter how well it was done or how careless it may have been.

HE SAYS:  While those were moments to be treasured in the past, today's generation has devalued its importance.  People used to romanticized those moments so much so that one might go through some sort of preparation to obtain that famous first kiss.  Today, it's simplified and young people may kiss just about anyone they date.

SHE SAYS:  Another perception of a first kiss is that it is an inexperience kiss perhaps done with people of little or no experience.  Yet, the participants keep thinking over and again about what might have happened when it happened. It is important and leaves lasting impression on teenage boys and girls who fall in love or are infatuated at early ages.  Even though it is enjoyable and a little childish at younger ages, insofar, its relevance can only be known from how both parties see it.

HE SAYS:  For a first kiss to be as memorable there has to be a mutual meeting of the minds – well, of the lips and emotions.  A friend narrated that his first kiss was with this girl he's admired for so long.  He asked her for a kiss under a plum tree, but he didn't know that where he stood had mission ants.  They talked for a while, as he inched in to kiss her, he felt the bites in his pants, he plunged forward and head butt his intended kisser.  They both fell, and the kiss was never had.  Few years later, they both met again, this time, they were both divorced from previous relationships.  They started dating, he took her under the same tree and proposed to her.  This time, he kissed her, minus the ants.  They are married now with two sons.

SHE SAYS:  What a beautiful story.  However, some first kisses are unconsciously done, there's no doubt.  It kicks you off your feet and keeps you day dreaming every time you think about that special person.  It makes you think you are in love, but in actuality, you are more or less obsessed with the person you've kissed.

HE SAYS: Finally, what matters in first kiss is what happens after the kiss.  Did it happen or not; did you score or not; did you get marry to him/her or not?  You don't owe me an answer, but I am sure you remember it well.  If you were an adult and kiss that lady for the first time, how significant was it in developing that new relationship?  For you, looking so lustfully at that special someone, how are you going to ask for that first kiss?  Don't try to steal it, be a gentleman, make the moment special and lasting, she will always want more, no matter when.

SHE SAYS:  Now, how important is that first may not be similar to the first kiss shared as an adolescent.  Reason being, an adult may wisely, rationally choose how and when to kiss the person admired.  An adult may decide for how long the kiss should be, as well as how protective and alert he/she should be when it's done.  Moreover, adults in most instances easily moved.  Most men and women who have had their first important kisses have been kissed many times in past times.  Yet for some, the most enjoyable, satisfactory and honest ones are done when people have matured.  However for others, their teen age kisses were the best they have ever had.  But how important is that first may vary if not differ with what its perception holds.  So, can you tell me how important was yours?

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