She Says: Yes I do. For me, cross-culture or inter-tribal relationships are ordinary relationships like any other. Regardless of that special person migrating from different country to meet his/her desired choice should not be a reason sufficient to stigmatize or ridicule that which exist between the couples. Relationships as a whole should not be culturally or tribally based. It should instead be looked at from the desire of two hearts. However, in today's modern society, cross-culture and inter-tribal relationships have caused serious family problems thus separating a large group of people. Unfortunately, the worst or most pathetic effects are posed on the two parties involved.
He Says: For me I see no problem in choosing a girl from a different tribal link or other parts of the world. If I live in the US for instance, and like to marry a girl from Afghanistan, that shouldn't really be a problem. After all, every man is at liberty to get and choose what he wants, once it is not harboring or causing trouble for anyone. Take for instance the president of the United States– Barack Obama; his parents are from different parts of this global village yet both Mother and Father came together based on mutual understanding and respect and above all, love. Had it been it ancient days, I'm sure there would have been several arguments as well as disagreements from both families because President Obama Father hails from the US, while his Mother from Africa. We even read stories in the Bible about Hebrews getting marry of Jews, what does it really matter? Nothing! There were no problems with that. What matters here UNDERSTANDS. I believe, once people understand one another, things are compel to be positive.
She Says: Whether ones approval of inter-tribal or cross-culture relationships is made visible, there are still problems if it comes to a family acceptance of another tribe, race, or nationality. Reason being some families strongly believe that choosing a husband or wife from foreign country would cause chaos because it is possible that the person brought in will never adopt to this new system of life which he/she finds his/her self in. More besides, there is a likelihood that the intruder as he/she might likely be call, will never understand what that family is made out of or what their beliefs are.
He Says: Take it from me or leave it, if a man marries a woman from another dimension on this universe, it makes both the purpose of God fulfilled. In fact, this helps the parties involved to explore other parts of the world and experience different peoples, life and culture. It helps to bring about peace and understanding amongst nations of the world, and it minimizes the level of fighting between/among countries. If a man from the western part of the globe marries a lady from the eastern side, they either would not allow or be happy if there are trouble/problems in his/her partner's geographical location. Hence, the approval of these relationships should not be seen from the perceptions either mentioned, but should be seen from what is internally felt.
She Says: Additionally, inter-tribal or cross-culture relationships are interchangeably done make manifest God's actual purpose of fulfillment for the world. "Go yea into the world and make disciples of many nations". Jesus did not only limit his subjects to a particular nation, but to the entire universe to reap a more positive result. This is just a clear indication that choosing a mate is biblically accepted, spiritually approved when it is physically performed. Now, no matter where he/she hails from, the only thing that matters is love.
He Says: You know what? I actually get annoy with people who restrict their children as to what group or kind of people to get marry to. While it is true that as a student of sociology, it is not always good to judge people's culture according to or by your own culture. But it is totally not in the right path for such culture of restriction to mandate its people as to whom to get married or when. Now, you tell me, if I hail from a culture that is vulnerable and encounter a girl whose culture is harsh, intolerably and eccentric but yet she proves to love me beyond all circumstances, it will still be impossible for the relationship to gain prominence unless I am strong to alleviate all claims bearing my incapability of said relationship. On the contrary, how am I going to get alone with her people if they are strong hearted and protective of their daughter and least to mention culture? Now these are all disadvantages of the relationships mentioned, but they can still be utilized provided our hearts are sincere. Notwithstanding, the world today comprises of different groups of people, ideas, places and culture. To incorporate a foreigner is to live with him, to marry form his country and to interact to and fro.
She Says: Bravo Mulbah, you've done well. Your oration and ideas were well thought about before attempting such brain teasing challenge especially while it is true that you are a student of sociology. But I do differ with you where you stated "you actually get annoy with people who restrict their children as to what group or kind of people to get marry to". Parents have the right to governed, choose and regulate the movements of their children because it is their responsibility. And children on the other hand, especially when grown up, have the right to also be sensitive to their feelings in choosing their life time partners. The choice a girl would make in choosing a life long mate, will depend on her parents own look at and analysis of the choice she had made. Most parents are wise to analyze what a man is worth as opposed to what he has. These kinds of investigations are done mostly to create a lasting marriage and not to cause problems for the couples in future. Therefore, it doesn't matter to me from whence or what culture a girl chooses from. But what matters is how positive that culture would reflect her life.
He Says: For heaven sake, with all due respect Ms. Akorsah, I do understand your critical thoughts and analysis towards simple matters but I stand to be corrected when ever I go wrong. In this case, I am opinionated to express what I think and how I feel no matter your judgments. Therefore, please give me the chance to learn regardless of all due respect. Now, you will have to understand that Marriage in it self is not for kids, it is meant for elderly people and not children. So, there is no need for any outside interference either from what you tern as culture or parental guidance. Love is love as life is life. And while it is true that these are natural phenomena, they just have to go on. You remember the story of Romeo and Juliet? How each family strongly opposed the other? How they thought they were contributing meaningfully to the well being of both lovers? And eventually, how their oppositions, criticisms, and cruelties brought sadness in the end? Such are happenings when the subject of cross-culture and inter-tribal relations is seen in a negative sense.
She Says: To be honest with you, I admire your comparison and contrast drill. They were brilliantly composed with too much emphasis been placed on me. Well, we must get back to the topic and finally conclude on the relevance of cross-culture and inter-tribal relationships. When we look around us, we see a dominance of the above taking place in our country on the daily basis – Liberians marrying Nigerians, Gambians-Ghanaians, American-Iraqis, and the list goes on. All of these are simple indications that the idea of culture being prioritized is no longer holding because the world has modernized and human beings have seen the need to interact interchangeably without any form of disturbance.
He Says: With out being unjust to any culture, I deduce that it makes no difference in getting partners from any angle of the world. It is only that culture, varies from one geographical area to another. But that which is important will soon make manifest to the world when two hearts come together. Culture is culture where human existences are concern. But it is not meant to destroy the ware being of the majority
She Says: To bring out an actual clarity on our topic of importance, let me give you an example of what cross-culture and inter-tribal relationships are all about. A Liberian woman, while traveling to Nigeria came across a business tycoon who instantly fell in love with her while on the plane. They talked about their lives and that of their families. And instantly she realized he was too rich and important a man to have a relationship with. She told him she hail from Liberia, a country of little or no culture. He told her, he too came from the Igbo tribe of Nigeria where there are many laws that are difficult to abide by. They rode in silence thinking about what the other have said and finally, they heard the hostess announcing their arrival. Inside the terminal, they said good byes and exchanged numbers and addresses and then they took off. Few weeks later, he called her to an invitation at his home but town upon arrival, his parents exchanged glances of disapproval as the entire family frown at their would be daughter in- law. But did they know in the first place that she would have been their in – law? Of course not. Yet, they made fun of her and called her all sorts of terrible names. But one morning upon her departure, the gentleman quietly told his parents that he had found his wife. The family argued and swore that he would have to marry her over their dead bodies. He insisted that they will die if he will have to live. His parents cried and pleaded with him not to take a wife from another culture but he refused on grounds that culture and ties are not justifications for forgoing what one wants. And he turned to them and said with tearful eyes "I am sorry parents, but loves surprises all things. Be it culture, family and wealth,". It is the presence of that which is absent.
Today "He" is Mulbah Flomo "She" is Martha Akorsah