She Says: He pretends that he is in love with his wife for a while. Yet he kept the line of communication open with that lady in the crowd at the wedding. After few weeks of pretentiously adoring his wife, he resumes his outside affairs. She was in the crowd, she's always crowded their relationship, he knew it, his wife knew it too, but they all pretended that it was over years ago.
He Says: Ummm, what a triangle? Not a good situation to find yourself in. Maybe someone did not tell the truth here. The wife wasn't truthful to herself in wanting to get marred and deny the existence of a known relationship; he wasn't truthful to either his wife or the girlfriend, he wanted to have his cake and eat it at the same time. As for the girl friend, she was still in love, but with the wrong man, a man who committed himself to another woman. She would have been better off to walk away, but let's face the fact, at times these things are easier said than done. Love is funny, intriguing and strange.
She Says: Unfortunately, that is the situation of today's modern society. A society in which women are taken for granted a society they are often abused and used especially behind the bouquet of flowers. As a matter of fact, the wife was helpless, totally unprepared for battling. In fact, he started it from the very beginning when he cheated on her with this same lady. He convinced her that his girl friend in question was in fact a cousin thus relieving her suspicion. However, he was never true to himself and his conscious when he played between the two ladies.
He Says: Let's not blame modern society, he was wrong. There's no excusing it. There are options though, leave one and keep one and not keep all two, especially once it's public.
She Says: That's a contradiction, a blatant lie and ridicule. The both of us know that it is impossible for any man to be committed only to his wife. It has never happened, it will never happen, and it is yet to happen. At the same time, men are always the problems behind the throw of the bouquet because they are always lusting after other strange women and leaving their wives to fend for themselves.
He Says: What's a blatant lie? I said there's no excusing his behavior. Anyway, to the defense of men, when you throw that bouquet and another woman catches it, she holds it in her hand, grasps it to her chest, at that point, she's wishing it was your husband – believe it or not. At that point, he's an object of desire, an icon of manhood, a perfect man who could do no wrong. We are not necessarily the problems; it's a collective load both sexes have to carry forever and ever. Men can be committed, men have been committed and men are committed. Your line is an argument that assumes all men are the same. I can show you many committed men. There are many reasons why men stray, but I will leave that for another topic.
She Says: A blatant lie is a foolish lie. As a matter of fact, we all fantasize, be it man or woman. But one thing I would disagree about is that, we are not the ones that often live in the world of utopia. In fact, we are not the way we are being described. I beg your pardon, Sir; we deserve so much more than just mere imagination. I stand to be corrected, men can never be committed, they have never been committed from Biblical times, and they will forever remain uncommitted even to the end of age. Yet the problems behind the bouquet of flowers women is that will forever remain subjective because men have refused to relinquish the power of superiority. While women, though soft hearted, will always manage the problems behind the bouquet.
He Says: Behind the bouquet of flowers is a man's soul, his heart, his love, his children's mother, the woman he's committed himself to. However, when that bouquet is fragmented, when she no longer dresses that special way, when she no longer wears that special lingerie, when the way you used to touch her is no longer amusing, when the styles and moments are off track and awkward and displeasing. When you don't synch much longer, then you know that the bouquet is fragmented and needs reattachment. Remember most men don't get married until they really want to. At that point, we are ready for commitment.
She Says: Look who's talking! What do men know about love in the first place? Do you know the strains and stresses we undergo when we do what we do for you? Are you aware of the little time we have to tend to ourselves even when we are exhausted? Do you know what it takes to make these numerous sacrifices? Have you ever mentioned a thank you Mom even when we are untidy as you claimed we often are? In fact, are you first of all grateful for the many contributions we continue to render? Have you boasted to your friends about who your busy wives are? How many times have you afforded us the opportunity to be taken out least to mention being identify with you? How many times have you told us we look beautiful when we dress your acclaim special way? How many times have you approved that special attire even when displayed? Per the way we touch you, do you ever reciprocate? Look, until you can understand the inconveniences we undergo at home, you will never discover the relevance of our existence.
He Says: I can not answer point by point, but here's my overwhelming answer to them, when a man's in love, compliments are at the tips of his lips. He touches, he compliments, he inquires about your day, he takes keen interest in all that you do and all that you are. He adores the ground you walk on, even if he strays, it's the animal in him that brings that on, but his focus and his world is you. He never stops talking about you "My Wife" and if you have a child or children. Men are protective creatures, in as much as we care for our love ones; we will cherish them in everything. When you take our caring and our love for granted, and then you see the other side – the side that you may always complain about.
She Says: There's no denial, there are some good things about you men. However, the bad things you do surpass the few good ones you most often try to maintain. Yet, I agree with you when you are in love if not infatuation, our bodies become your field of discoveries. But I would also argue that you are very careless when it comes to complementing, implementing, requiring as well as touching. Even if you stray with the intention of keeping it secret, your weaknesses and fabrications can not help pulling you down. That animal instinct that refused to leave your inner man since the days of creation, as surmised, is the greatest fault that you have. Yet, behind some bouquets, there still exists maximum love, peace, understanding as well as cheerful faces, do you know why? I guess not. However, this results from the blessing of God which comes by means of the tireless efforts that we women make when we close our eyes in supplication and prayers.
He Says: Cool, thanks for not denying that we have some good within us, anyway. Careless we can be many times. But there are times you go digging for things to fight about. Things that mean nothing to us. To maintain the smiles behind the bouquet of flower, both parties must be willing to maintain the freshness of the flowers and not pass on faults. Men will be men, women will be women, but we must learn to coexist to exist. In closing, I leave this with you, behind the bouquet of flowers; always remember that you will forever be our sweethearts.